Most men would never hurt a woman. But when a mate makes a crude comment, gets handsy, or talks about his partner like she's his to control, a lot of good men go quiet. It feels awkward. You don't want to make a scene.
That awkward moment passes for you. For women, the discomfort never really does. It's keys held between her fingers on the walk to the car. It's laughing off a comment because that's safer than not. It's the feeling, day after day, that nobody is going to step in. Every time a man stays quiet, she learns she's on her own.
Speaking up doesn't have to be big. A “not cool, mate.” A quiet check that she's okay. The more of us who do it, the easier it gets, and the less women have to carry alone.